How busy are your weekends?
B. Somewhat busy
C. Ridiculously Busy
How good are you with kids?
A. Very inexperienced
B. Some experience
C. Highly experienced
Can you balance a checkbook?
A. Can I do what now?
B. I know how, but I don’t actually do it
C. Yes, I’m actually pretty frugal
How well do you cook?
A. I’ve memorized many fast food menus
B. I can cook the basics
C. I can cook just about anything
How close are your relationships with others?
A. I’m not really close to anyone
B. I have a few very close friends, but not a lot of friends in general
C. I have a really close community group
What does most of your time consist of?
B. Working or playing, but not both
C. Working hard, then playing hard
How often do you travel?
A. Almost never/very little
C. Whenever I have the chance
How involved are you with the community or ministry?
A. I don’t do anything related to either
B. I do some volunteer/ministry work
C. I donate a lot of my extra time to community/ministry work
How are your professional skills?
A. I can write a résumé . That’s it.
B. I have the basics covered, such as customer service and some minor skills
C. I’m great with personal relations and I have a solid skill set
How often do you work on your hobbies/talents?
A. I don’t have any hobbies or talents
B. I work on them sometimes, but not as often as I could
C. I spend a lot of time on my hobbies and explore new things often
Tally Your Score:
Mostly A’s – Singleness Slacker
You aren’t utilizing your single season at all. Where are you directing your focus?
Mostly B’s – Intermediate Single
You’re doing pretty well in your single season, but you still have room to live your singleness to the fullest. Don’t be afraid to do more.
Mostly C’s – Singlestar
You’re doing great in your single season of life! The skills you have now will definitely be of service to you in your marriage.
Your single season of life has three major benefits: it gives you time to serve your community or in ministry, it is the best time to create lasting relationships with others, and it is a time to prepare yourself with the skills you’ll need for marriage. Can you do those things after marriage? Of course. But with the demanding attention that a home, spouse, and a family needs, doing these things proves to be more difficult in a married life than your season of singleness.
Singleness is not a curse, although your aching heart might think it is. It is the only time in your life where you are free to explore your talents, passions, and interests to the fullest, without any heavy responsibilities and distractions hindering you. Marriage is indeed a magnificent blessing, but it also causes you to sacrifice a lot of time and energy to keep it thriving.
The idea of singleness is not to take time to focus on yourself, but instead develop yourself. If all you’re doing in your single season is spoiling yourself or obsessing over nothing but your own needs, you’re going to find that your single season will end up feeling empty and will render quite fruitless. But if you spend your single season developing yourself by serving others and gaining skills that will serve you greatly after you are married, your single season will be fulfilling. And when your single season is fulfilling, there is a better chance that your married life will be also.