It’s easy to forget that the word “passion” isn’t a word merely reserved for the bedroom. The passions we have in life shape us as individuals. It’s what attracts others to us. It’s what helps us live life to the fullest.
Finding Your Passion
It seems the hardest part about passions is finding one. It’s easy to decide what you like and dislike, but finding something that brings you to life is another issue.
The most rewarding of passions are the ones that assist others. This can be anything from creating awareness of a condition to volunteer work at a community center. Local churches usually have opportunities for creating services for others, and are a great place to start looking.
Another excellent type of passion is the kind involving self-expression. Writing, art, dance, music, and crafting all fall under this category. This genre of interests involve individual creativity and symbolism. They are great self-esteem boosters and it’s easy to connect with others.
There are some things you should avoid when it comes to passions: For one, don’t choose to pursue anything that will create slander against others or creates tension. If your passion is politics or journalism, try not to create unnecessary stresses by attacking others. Sooner or later, people will start attacking you back and your conversations with your partner and friends will dwindle down to angry rants of people who are against you.
And secondly, don’t take on activities that create problems within your relationships. Any passion in which you disappear for months at a time is not something to insist upon when you have a family and spouse. Your passions shouldn’t exclude or alienate others, but instead create conversations and more exciting relationships.
Sharing Your Passions
Don’t make the mistake of trying to drag your partner into your passion. If you completely love ballroom dancing and your partner would rather fake an injury, your enthusiasm for the hobby will decrease quickly. Better to throw yourself into it and let your partner admire you for it than dragging them into it.
Does that mean to never share your passion and smile and nod whenever your partner talks about theirs? Absolutely not. Just don’t expect them to be as excited about your book club as you are. But that shouldn’t keep you two from discussing the plot of the latest novel you’re reading.
When sharing your passions with your partner, don’t make them feel obligated to remember every detail. Also, refrain from using a lot of terms that your partner’s not going to know. Less is more. Start out by giving bare-bone descriptions of your activities, and if they seem to hold up the conversation well, add in more details. You should always have friends to share your passions with, that way your partner doesn’t feel pressured to share in your passions with you.
If your partner is sharing his/her passions with you, there’s a good chance you won’t be as into it as they are, however, be sure to listen to their adventures and ask questions about their projects. If it’s something you know very little about, why not try it? Regardless of whether or not you fall in love with it, your partner will appreciate the gesture.
If you both have the same passion, great! Just be careful not to try to out-do each other or criticize. Each person has their own style when it comes to things, so try to admire each other for your differences. Compliment each others strengths, and assist each other with weaknesses.
As wonderful as it is to share your passions, doing things solo has its advantages. Doing all the same activities as a couple makes for boring conversation. Reminiscing about your bike ride with your partner on the side of a mountain is a much shorter conversation then telling your partner about the three crazy friends you went up some trails with.
Single individuals will have an easier time pursuing their passions then those that are attached. As wonderful as relationships are, they take a lot of attention and time– time that can be used to explore your passions. If you’re single, this is your time to find out what you truly want to pursue in life. If you’re attached, this is your time to strengthen your relationship by sharing what you love with your significant other.
Passions are an important part of living and shouldn’t be taken for granted. As individuals, your passions will enrich your life. As partners, your passions should enrich your relationship.