Valentine’s Day is somewhat irritating and maybe even depressing to the single crowd. Being surrounded by reminders that you don’t have someone to share the holiday with can be taunting, but don’t plan feeling sorry for yourself just yet. Try these ideas instead.

Spoil Yourself
It’s cheaper to go solo anyhow. Really outdo yourself. Buy that insanely expensive TV or purse you keep thinking about. Take a day at the spa or go rock climbing. Take the time to do for yourself what you’ve always wanted to do, but have never gotten around to doing.

Gather Your Single Friends
You’re bound to know some other people who are irritated to spend the day alone. Call them up and throw a LAN, pajama, or anti-Valentine’s Day party. Talk about why it’s great to be single. Talk about crazy ex’s. Talk about relationships you never want to have.

Love Others
Just because the day is mainly meant for romantic love doesn’t mean you’re stuck within those boundary lines. Send your mother flowers. Write your dad a sentimental note. Take a good friend out to dinner. Do volunteer work and show kindness to a stranger who is having a rough time.

Make a Singleness List
Make a list of everything you want to do before you get married, such as learning a new hobby or traveling to a far off destination. Make a list of traits you want in a spouse, or what traits you don’t want in a spouse. Make a list of your boundaries regarding physical or emotional aspects of your next relationship.

Avoid Anything Romantic
This will be a little difficult, but try to avoid anything romantic on Valentine’s Day. Don’t watch romantic movies, listen to love songs (or songs that remind you of anyone special), or read romantic articles or stories. Stay away from highly romantic public places where a lot of couples will be.

Remind yourself of the benefits of being single and use Single Awareness Day to celebrate those things.