Throw a Singleness Party

singlenesspartyA singleness party is not to be confused with a singles party. A singles party creates an environment where single guys and gals can get together and mingle, possibly leaving with a new crush by the end of the evening. A singleness party is all about celebrating being single and creating friendships with others who are in the same season. Here are a few simple ideas for your next singleness shindig.

Gift Bag

Give your guests gifts that enrich their singleness. Here are a few gift ideas:

  • A daily devotional book
  • A journal for them to write to their future spouses in (to be presented to their spouse on the honeymoon)
  • A Bible study relating to singleness
  • Stationary sets
  • Gift items from non-profits that give back to the community, such as Thistle Farms, C28, any fair trade website, or even a local store in your town that donates to charitable causes. You can check out different gifts for different causes at Shop With Meaning.
  • There are also singles gag-gifts you can pick up at various online stores, like Zazzle.

A book on singleness, marriage, or dating is also a great gift idea for your guests. Here are a few suggestions:

  • The 10 Best Decisions a Single Can Make by Bill and Pam Farrel
  • When I Get Married by Jerusha Clark
  • Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot
  • Real Marriage by Mark and Grace Driscoll
  • Sacred Sex by Tim Alan Gardner
  • Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge
  • Wild at Heart by John Eldredge
  • Wide Awake by Erwin Raphael McManus

Food

For a singleness party, any type party food is acceptable. Feel free to do fancy appetizers, a potluck, or a tasting party. If you want to add a spin on it, try adding a theme, such as “a dish you want at your wedding”, “a food your children will be eating often”, or “the dish that will win your spouse’s heart.” Have fun with it!

Activities

Questions and Answers
Sit in a circle and ask questions to each individual on their singleness. Try some of these questions:

  • How the Lord has used your singleness for good?
  • What is one thing you love about being single?
  • What is one thing you would like to do before getting married?
  • What is one trait you would like in your future spouse?
  • What is your biggest struggle as a single?
  • What was your biggest relationship heartbreak?
  • Do you believe in love at first sight? Soulmates? True love?
  • What do you expect marriage to be like?
  • What is better: dating or courtship?

Asking these questions in a group setting brings about great insight and discussion. It also lets your single friends know that they’re not alone in their fears and desires as singles.

Apples to Apples
Play this popular card game with a twist: whatever cards you win are the adjectives that describe your future spouse.

Create For Charity
Create something to give to others. Make food baskets for shelters, make packages to send over seas to troops, make scarves or quilts for the homeless. Contact local charities and see what they accept for contributions. You can also have your guests create gifts for family members or special people who have spoken into their lives. If you don’t want to create, donate! Have each of your guests bring items to donate to a cause or charity.

Get Prayer Partners
Have all guests put their name in a jar, then shake up the names and create prayer partners or small prayer groups. Have the prayer partners sit together for 20-30 minutes, discussing their fears, concerns, and desires for singleness and marriage. Tell everyone that they should contact their partner(s) once a week with updates and concerns. Encourage prayer partners to pray for each other at least once a week for wisdom and guidance concerning their singleness, marriage, and future spouse.

Letter to Your Future Spouse
Give each person a sheet of stationary and have them write a letter to their future spouse. Encourage them to write about how they want to serve their spouse, what marriage means to them, what romantic gestures they like, favorite Bible verse, words of wisdom, how they are praying for their spouse now, and any other information they want to share with their future spouse.