When Should You Kiss?

kiss3Have you ever seen The Music Man? There’s a song in it called “Shipoopi.” (Which wins the Most Awkward Name For a Song Ever Award.) The opening line to that song is,

“Well a woman who’ll kiss on the very first date
Is usually a hussy.
And a woman who’ll kiss on the second time out
Is anything but fussy.
But a woman who waits ’til the third time around,
Head in the clouds, feet on the ground!
She’s the girl he’s glad he’s found…”

This song sticks with me. Not just because I’m still trying to figure out what “shipoopi” actually means, but also because it makes me think about the proper time for a first kiss. Do you need to kiss within the first three dates? Or do you jump on the wait-until-the-alter bandwagon? When is a first kiss proper? On a first date? After the first “I love you?” Or when you say “I do?”

There’s really no Scripture to refer to regarding kissing. Christians are commanded to obtain from sexual immorality and to flee from temptation (1 Corinthians 6:18-20), but at the same time, a kiss is not sinful. A kiss means different things in different cultures. The motives of a kiss determine its purity. Can a kiss be sinful? Possibly. Is it always? No.

But I will say this – kissing is a gateway drug. Once you start, it leads into other things easily. The foundation of a relationship shouldn’t be the chemistry of the kiss, but the chemistry of your friendship.

Don’t feel the need to rush the first kiss. If this is the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with, you’ll have plenty of time to kiss; if this is the person you’re not spending the rest of your life with, then why waste your lips?

What are your thoughts? When is the proper time for the first kiss? Comment below!

  • Melissa Stockman-Broaddus

    Great article! I’ve heard both sides of this argument, waiting and waiting longer!